3. Place your hand on your heart
Why this might work?
Physical touch to our chest can be calming and grounding. Try it! Right now, just place your flat hand on your heart (maybe for bonus points close your eyes) and see how you feel. It’s okay if this one doesn’t land for you, but if you do get a sense of calm and comfort for it, it could be one to try for the next storm.
4. Get curious
Why this might work:
Curiosity calms the limbic system. When I learned this from Dr. Stuart Shanker, I was so excited! Excited because I know that curiosity is one of my strengths, and when we can utilize our strengths in parenting, things feel easier. I like asking questions of my child, or even of myself.
“I wonder what’s going on for them right now?” Or “Where am I feeling this in my body right now?”
Something that can help with HOW we implement these strategies is to try practicing them in a NOT intense moment, and strengthen the path of:⠀
something intense happens ➡️ I access a strategy ➡️ I become more regulated
Then every time you notice this successful pathway, you will possibly find it more quickly and easily the next time!